Last Updated on February 7, 2025 by alli
If you’re a mum of a preteen girl (aged 9–12), chances are she’s constantly asking you to buy her things! I promise, your daughter isn’t alone in this. I have one too, so I totally get what you’re going through.
In the last year or so, my daughter has requested the following brands and labels more times than I care to count – Mecca, Sephora, Nike, Peter Alexander, Drunk Elephant, Sol de Janeiro, White Fox, Frank Green, Apple iPhone, and that’s just the start!
It turns out there are some key reasons why preteen girls are so fixated on wanting things.
Why your Preteen might be constantly asking for things:
1. Peer pressure:
She wants the latest trends, gadgets or services to keep up with their friends. At this age fitting in is very important to her.
2. A lack of understanding of finances:
She may not fully grasp the value of money, the effort it takes to earn it, or the importance of prioritising needs over wants. This makes it hard for her to understand why some of her requests are denied.
3. Instant Gratification:
Her generation is used to getting things quickly through modern technology, such as entertainment or answers to questions. Wanting something now might just be a natural reflection of the environment she’s growing up in.
4. Marketing Influence:
Ads on social media and YouTube often target preteens to make them feel like they need the newest trend to be cool, popular, or happy.
My secret weapon to “Mum, can you buy me this?” requests.
If you’re like me, you simply can’t afford to say yes to every request your preteen makes. That’s why I’ve created a handy little secret weapon to help us mums out. It’s a proposal form your preteen has to fill out each time she wants you to buy her something. I know my daughter will be needing a stack of these!
This form is designed to help your daughter understand the difference between a want and a need. It also encourages her to do some research on the product she’s asking for, including price comparisons. Best of all, she’ll need to write a proposal and pitch her case to convince you why the purchase is worth it.
Download the form today and take control of the constant requests!
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