Why self-care is important for mums

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Last Updated on July 13, 2025 by alli

When you’re a mum, it’s easy to put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own. Life gets busy, and it’s natural to let your self-care slip down the list. But even small moments for yourself can make a big difference.

What is self-care?   

Self-care is something a person consciously makes time to do that benefits and promotes their overall well-being.

My personal story

When I became a mum, everything changed overnight, as it does for so many of us.

The freedom and identity I once knew seemed to vanish with the arrival of my daughter. I became a full-time stay-at-home mum, and my days were filled with caring for her and running the household.

Before long, I started feeling frustrated, unhappy, and even resentful. I felt stuck in the repetitive routine of daily life.

Looking back, I now understand why: I had completely lost myself. I was doing everything for everyone else – and nothing for me.

Why self-care matters

Motherhood can be all-consuming, and the first thing to disappear is the free time we once took for granted.

That’s why carving out even a little time each day to prioritise ourselves is so important. Without it, our health, happiness, and well-being suffer.

For me, making time for myself didn’t come naturally. At first, it felt selfish—like I was putting myself ahead of my family. I felt guilty and uncomfortable doing anything just for me.

But eventually, I asked myself: If I stay exhausted and miserable, how does that help anyone? The truth is, it doesn’t.

I realised that looking after myself was actually one of the best things I could do for my family. The more I did things that filled me up, the more patient, present, and joyful I became.

What your self-care teaches your daughter

Your little girl is always watching. She listens to what you say, but even more, she learns from what you do.

You are her role model, and the way you treat yourself sets the standard for how she will one day treat herself.

When she sees you valuing your own well-being, setting boundaries, and making time for yourself, she learns that it’s important and positive to do the same.

Finding what works for you

Every mum’s version of self-care looks a little different. What restores and recharges one mum might not work for another. Some crave a night out, others just want a solid nap. The key is knowing and choosing what you genuinely enjoy and need.

When I first started adding self-care into my life, I kept it simple. I began with a 30-minute morning walk after school drop-off and a weekly coffee catch-up with a friend. It didn’t seem like much, but it made a huge difference.

Now, years later, self-care is something I prioritise without guilt and I couldn’t do life without it.

Free Self-Care Planner Pack

I’ve created an awesome little Self-Care Planner Pack to help you start prioritising your well-being.

Inside you’ll find a weekly and monthly planner, a list of self-care ideas to inspire you, and uplifting quotes to keep you motivated. I encourage you to give yourself the gift of time and care. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.